Friday, 17 July 2015

Do you wet yourself when you sneeze?

Let's talk about stress incontinence, something many ladies encounter but don't really talk about because let's face it, wetting yourself when you sneeze or run is a bit embarrassing. The thing is, I think we should talk about these kind of things because when we do, you don't feel so alone. I bought my boys a large trampoline a few summers ago ( at the time I was 35) and I was really excited to have a go on it, happy childhood memories came flooding back to me, until the first bounce. I did a wee, the more I bounced the more I wee'd. I got off and put a pad in some clean knickers, I went back on the trampoline and bounced again, it kept coming, it was embarrassing, I didn't realise the boys had been watching from their window, they said it was gross I wee'd on the trampoline and they didn't want it anymore, I left it up for a while in the vain hope they would go on it but they never did, in the end I gave it away. I was gutted to because I loved the thought of excercising in a fun way, plus rebounding is meant to be really good for you.

When I am walking down the street I have to cross my legs before I sneeze otherwise I wet myself. I try and do those kegel excersise but they make me feel weird. I know there are surgical treatments you can have, but I wouldn't go that far, just yet. After having 3 boys I expected to be a little 'loose' down there but never thought it would come to this.

Research published in the journal Obstetrics & Gynecology found that as many as one in three women have one or more embarrassing "down there" issues, including stress incontinence so I am not alone and neither are you! In fact millions of women suffer from it.

Breaking the silence on these taboo subjects will hopefully make us all feel a little more normal and we can support each other by sharing our stories and get help if we need it too. So come on ladies, who is brave enough to share your stories too? x

Saturday, 20 June 2015

Honesty and hormones

Somedays I'm really happy and some days I feel sad for no reason, sometimes I cry, sometimes I laugh, sometimes I feel like running away and starting over. As a mum and a woman I am sure this is how a lot if us feel but we don't share it in case we offend or it makes us feel guilty. It doesn't mean I love my family any less, it doesn't mean I'm not grateful for what I have, it just means I'm human, I have feelings, sometimes hormone bonkers crazy feelings depending on where I am in my cycle. I am trying to learn to live with the ups and downs and realise its ok to feel exactly as I do at any given moment, to acknowledge the feelings and emotions and not act or react to them right then. To wait it out, to go with the flow and just accept it.

Sunday, 24 May 2015

The only things growing are weeds and fruit!

Spent another Sunday afternoon at the allotment today, after upgrading from a half plot to full size it's been hard work, there is so much prep to do, the soil is very heavy clay and every time it rains it ends up flooded. Weeds appear overnight and the seeds don't grow!
One thing that is doing well are the fruit trees, if nothing else we will have an abundance of fruit to eat!

The blossom on the apple trees are gorgeous, so delicate and pretty. There are various blossom colours too depending on which type of apple tree they are on. Which I didn't know before getting this plot. 

Today Tom my DH had the job of taking down the poly tunnel frame that was all bent out of shape with the wind and was beyond saving, it's such a shame as the cover is in perfect condition, were hoping to save up to buy a new one. 

I spent the afternoon digging and trying to straighten out a big slope at the top of the patch, the soil was full of plastic, bricks, roots from a tree and rocks, I got cramp in my bum cheek and my shoulders are killing now from digging so much! I planted a load of potatoes in it after clearing the rubbish in the hopes they will improve the soil.

Some buttercups and marigolds have appeared since last week, finally a bit of colour coming through. 

Our watercress is growing abundantly too, it's in a rain butt and has just started to flower, the roots on it are huge! Our chickens love watercress and we have an old fish tank in the garden with it growing in for them. 

Please pray for my seeds to grow and the weeds to piss off! 
Happy gardening!

Friday, 24 April 2015

Mmm smoothies and the tree of life

Post yoga smoothie banana, raspberries, rice milk, wheatgrass powder and baobab powder to make me feel alive!

Baobab is amazing, it's known as the tree of life and is cherished by people across Africa, the naturally occurring fruit powder is rich in vitamin C and minerals: magnesium, iron, potassium, calcium and copper which help to revitalise, reduce tiredness and fatigue and support the immune system. We use the organic brand Organic burst for our powders, they are a great etical company who employ at a fair wage lots of families in rural Africa and preserve the natural biodiversity, which is awesome! 
I love smoothies they are like pudding in a glass! 

Tuesday, 21 April 2015

Another day at the plot and lovely books

I spent a lovely afternoon in the sunshine today at our plot, did some weeding and dug over a bed ready for planting, planted some seed potatoes that were on offer (I normally just sprout my own in a dark cupboard), built up the next layer of compost with grass cuttings, veg peelings, coffee dregs and horse poo and then sat on a bench we made from bricks and a scaffolding plank and closed my eyes and listened to the birds and the sounds of nature all around me. It was amazing, I remembered when we first got the phone call to say we could have an allotment I said to Tom (my partner) which plot I thought it was, we had visited plenty of times on open day so knew the plots quite well, it was a middle plot with fruit trees on, when we visited to view our new plot it wasn't that one, it was right at the far end with no trees, it was only today I realised when we moved from the half plot to this double plot just over a month ago I was sitting next to the original plot I dreamed about and our new plot has loads of fruit trees on it too!

I was so happy and filled with gratitude, I gave thanks to *God and Mother Nature, my eyes filled up and I could feel an awakening in my body and heart, I feel so lucky and blessed by the life I have, we may not be rich in money yet but I am so rich in other ways.

I took some pictures to share of the beautiful flowers on the plot at the moment, this is Kale that has gone to seed, the flowers are so lovely, I am waiting for the flowers to die off and capture the seeds for next year before giving the greens to the chickens.

Gorgeous apple blossom, how perfect are the flowers, they have a delicate fragrance and the bees love them

I also went to the library and got some amazing books, The thrifty forager by Alys Fowler, foraging by David Squire, Old fashion remedies from arsenic to gin by Dr Rob Hicks and Nature handbook by Chris Packham I also scored The Power by Rhonda Byrne for £5 from The works, got to love the discount book shop!

I am going to do another foraging walk and talk tomorrow to coincide with “PLEDGE TO PLANT – EARTH DAY", be a part of the biggest grass-root effort in history by planting a seed/tree as a “give back” to Earth. I am meeting some people at Salisbury gardens behind Stanley park in Blackpool for an informal foraging session, to teach them about the plants they can eat, learn about the plants health benefits and the best ways to cook them. 

*God = all around us, not one person/thing, I believe in the universe, energy and spirit, I think all religions have the same theme running through them all, be kind to each other and the planet, I like to pick different parts from different belief systems and just know there is more to my life than just being here.

Friday, 17 April 2015

Crafty hen parties Blackpool

 So after a long time of teaching people to sew I decided to add some strings to my bow of being self employed and am venturing into hen and birthday parties! I have taught quite a few craft workshops before, in fact I am off to a lovely farm in Dolphinholme tomorrow for a weekend of workshops, Saturday I am teaching ladies to make lavender bags and lavender wheat bags then staying over in the farms caravan (hoping there are no spiders) and on Sunday joining in with their biodynamic compost making course. Very exciting learning new skills which I can use on the allotment and eventually in Portugal.

So I made this poster for the hen parties and am hoping it should be lots of fun, it's a little bit scarey too venturing off in another direction but I am asking the universe to help me and send me lots of lovely ladies!

Tuesday, 7 April 2015

Our allotment

I always wanted an allotment especially after watching the good life as a child, I adored Tom and Barbara so much and thought it would be a dream come true having some pigs! 
What I didn't realise is how much hard work they are to get them into shape, I'm talking aching bodies after hours of digging, sore arm muscles after lugging bricks around, and a sore back after bending over so much. 
I always feel like I have achieved something great though and that I deserve my dinner after all that fresh air and hard work. 

We have has an allotment for just under a year now and have gone from half a plot to a full plot, the thing is its takes x full year if having a plot to know how the sun moves over the plot, what is already established and grows perennially, how it drains after a pour down and how the wind hits it, our first plot was sheltered, sunny all day and peaceful as it was at the far end of all the plots. 
Now we have moved to the bigger plot we are right in the middle of the action, overlooked by a huge house that blocks out the sun, compacted clay soil and the drainage is terrible. 
So we have gained growing room and the previous owners left us a shed which is awesome but we have lots of work to do to get it in order and with quality growing going on. 
So the above pic is when we first took over the plot, when its all sorted I will take another and show you guys. 

I have been starting to plant seeds at home and the courgettes are growing so fast already. 


 We are trying to grow as much as possible this year and be as self sufficient as possible, practising for our move to Portugal. 
I am hoping I have more success with things like butternut squash and red cabbage this year, last year they didn't grow.