Thursday, 5 May 2016

Beneath every strong, independent woman ...truth


This... this is so true, 

just because I now choose to be positive and happy doesn't mean I have always been this way, 

I have learned, I have grown, awful things have happened in my life, I have suffered tragedy, had severe depression, had an eating disorder, been abused through domestic violence, felt abandoned when my dad left when I was 7, am now an adult orphan with no parents, been a single mum to 3 boys for 8 years, 

things I do not wish to disclose to anyone but you know what, I don't feel bad, 

I don't want revenge, I am not a victim, I am not 'in recovery', I am recovered and everything that has happened to me, has made me the person I am today and for that I am thankful, 

 everything that has happened, happened for a reason, it made me strong, it made me realise that I can choose to dwell on the past and feel like a dark cloud is over me or I can choose to be thankful, 

I choose to see the good, I choose to feel positive and shine my light. Everyone has a past, everyone has a story, no one knows what that is unless they are told. 

Don't automatically judge a person on how they are now, it's often taken a long and winding road to get to where they are today.

 Love Dotty xx

Tuesday, 3 May 2016

A day in the life as an entrepreneur




A million thoughts go through your head, new ideas pop up all the time, you try, you fail, you try, you succeed, life isn't always smooth but thats OK because it's those times which make you grow, it's those times which show you your strength.

 You wonder wouldn't be easier to give it all up?, to forget your dream, to be a 9 to 5er and then, magic happens, you make a sale, you become inspired by anothers encouraging words, your spark is rekindled and you think YES!! 

I can do this, I will make it, I will achieve my dreams, its been a long and sometimes bumpy road but I am on this journey and enjoying the ride. 

You can't compare yourself to someone elses journey, we each live our own, you can't ever truly know what someones life is like because you don't live in their body, we are all just trying to make it the best we can. 

Support and encouragement, kindness and hope, thats what we all need, forgot the drama, see the good, shine your light, and if you have no light then sort that shit out! Work on yourself, you and only you have the power to control how you feel.

 Love Dotty xx

Sunday, 1 May 2016

Hema stationary review

It's national stationary week and those lovely folks over at HEMA have sent me some goodies to try, very excited hands up who loves stationary?

Where do you get your stationary from?

Love Dotty xx

Colouring canvases and lack of sleep

Check out my latest idea -
Relieve stress while creating art for your walls with a Coloring Canvas, use felt tip pens to colour in and enhance this amazing illustration hand drawn by me, each one unique, I take commissions or you can find these on Etsy
I have also thought it would be a good idea to paint and decorate paper fans but after the paint dried it wouldn't close properly and was a real pain and a faff, so I won't be bothering with that again.

 We have decided to give the dogs their own bedroom, we are so tired everyday from them sleeping in our bedroom, its really annoying how they wake us up loads of times in the night, so we have been taking it in turns to co-sleep with them in their bedroom until they get used to being in there. Every other night I get a decent nights sleep, its like having babies, it's crazy!

I am working on my 40th Birthday party too now, its going to be Indian themed and today I am threading hot pink flowers onto invisible thread to make garlands. I am realy excited for it and going to attempt to make Mojito mocktails and we are sharing Indian food and hopefuly having a cacao ceremony too.

Love Dotty xx

Tuesday, 29 March 2016

Diane Goldie and the colour revolution

I found out about an amazing artist today, Diane Goldie. She creates the most beautiful wearable art pieces, so rich and colourful, I am in total love.

“Maybe I’m not ‘fuckable’... that’s fine — I’m not for you to fuck,” declares the London artist and stalwart feminist Diane Goldie. Draped in colorful Frida-inspired clothes and jewelry that she made herself, Diane is a wise and unapologetic matriarch. In a society that wants women past 30 to look 21 or disappear, the 51-year-old unabashedly asserts her visibility through her bold style while teaching her granddaughter that girls don’t have to make their naturally-grown body hair disappear.
What really lays bare Diane’s strength is how she has confronted her own personal demons -- mainly, a mom whose narcissism made her unable to confront the fact that her 13-year-old daughter was being abused by a 36-year-old paedophile. “After he raped me, I lost ownership of my body,” Diane says. “It became the vehicle in which I pleased other people.” To see how Diane regained control of her body and is now using it to “smash the patriarchy,” watch her video above! - words from the website Style like u

Follow Diane on Instagram: @dianegolide  or follow her on Pinterest: Diane London


Sometimes things happen at just the right time, in fact all things happen at the right time but sometimes we are more aware of it, so I have been feeling low the past few days and doubt myself a lot, I doubt my abilities to ever move from this town in which I was born, I doubt my creativity and that people will love what I make, I doubt my body and really want to love it, wobbles and all, i doubt that I am attractive from the neck down because of the clothes I wear, I get funny looks all the time in town, woman laugh at me, teenagers call me names and men look at me like I'm bonkers. I dress for myself and comfort, not to please anyone else but it does get on my nerves sometimes, I also clocked myself in sainsburys window and saw my bloomers sticking out under my skirt, then big fisherman type thick socks and my grubby trainers and I thought "oh my god no wonder people look at me weird haha"

So this morning as I got dressed I was trying to better match some socks to my rainbow tights and thought, maybe I should just buy a pair of jeans, I mean thousands of other people wear them, am I missing out on something? and then I went online to do some blogging and discovered my friend had shared the above video, so the jeans idea can piss off and I will carry on being me again, I love how fabulous and embracing Diane is of herself, I am working on that, (always a work in progress).

^ A little array of the kind of things I wear, that second to last photo was taken a few years ago, I was much thinner then! that's what biscuits and cake do to you haha.


If you follow me on facebook, you might recall last year I wanted to start a happy colours clothes revolution in UK, because of this: I love making clothes and wearing combinations that make me feel beautiful. Today I went to town in the pink skirt in the last picture, I had a bridal net underskirt under in which peeks out of the bottom and floral docs, the amount of filthy looks and stares like I was an alien I got (mainly off women) was crazy, I often don't really care what people think or if they stare, after all I live in Blackpool in the dreary north of UK where the folk wear black and grey clothes but today it made me think, why is it so wrong or not normal to wear colour? little girls wear lots of colour and loads of pink, at what age does it become wrong and the 'adult' wear has to be bleak and dark colours? I looked out over the high street and surveyed the sea of jeans and black coats, the only bits of coloured clothes was on children and a disabled lady.
This is sad really. In other countries women wear glorious coloured clothes and are deemed beautiful. I think women should encourage each other to look lovely and support each other by smiling and not sneering. It just reminds me of bullying and that's not nice.

So pledge your alliance to Dotty wear and this week choose to wear an outfit the does not include grey or black. Make sure you tag your photos #Dottywear on twitter or instagram or tag me on facebook so I can see you in all your gorgeous glory!

Share this and lets see how far around the UK this can travel. 

Lovely colours = happy 

Love Dotty xx

Thursday, 24 March 2016

Thinking outside the box

It's all about the boxes

So this week I have mainly been making boxes, I love painting boxes, the possibilities of what to store in them are endless and it makes a nice change from painting on canvas.

All different sizes and shapes keep my 'job' interesting, I often imagine what people keep in there boxes and sometimes they tell me, this one below is for keeping crystals in next to a bed, how wonderful!

This one is for keeping meditation cards in, its about the size of a fiction book and opens up just like a book, it has a magnetic fastening too.

Think too much?

I am working on this one myself, I am constantly thinking, thinking of what is next, thinking of new ideas, how to make money, how to travel, how to have more sex, more sleep, lose weight, sort out my skin, help other people, be more chilled out, be more accepting, judge less, enjoy more things, get involved in more art based stuff, how to become self sufficient totally, what to grow, what to plant, how to build a polytunnel with zero pence, how to stop the chickens squarking at the seagulls at 6am blah blah, the list goes on and on. I want to switch my brain off to quiet mode for a bit, practise meditation everyday (I easily get distracted and forget), learn being in the moment more and accepting what is. Allowing myself to feel and be happy on a constant level, giving myself permission to just be. How do you 'switch' off?

 Did you like the way I joined the boxes and thinking into a witty title? haha I try my best ;)

Love Dotty xx

Tuesday, 15 March 2016

Today I had an epiphany

Today I had an epiphany whilst I was on the beach

As I felt the warm sun on my back, Nahko and Medicine for the People playing in my ears, the beautiful blue sky above with the calm almost still sea as far as I could see and to my left the snowy mountain tops of the lake district, 

I realised in this world, in this space and time I am tiny, I am a little spec in the universe, my worries are irrelevant, they are totally nonsense, I felt the presence of god, I felt the power of love for all the earth, 

I felt so enlightened and overcome with emotion, I cried, I was so happy, I need not worry about trivial things, I know I am supported, I know there is a bigger picture, I know great miracles will happen. ‪#‎grateful‬ ‪#‎blessed‬

Love Dotty xx